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      <title>How do you keep going</title>
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      <description><![CDATA[Treatments have failed and there are no more options left. My wife who is 35 has hospice coming by daily. I feel absolutely horrible, can't begin to describe what I feel. Haven't slept I days. Mainly  because my wife thinks she is ok and tries to walk and he right side doesn't work well at all she has become child like in some ways. I feel like I can take no more I am at my ropes end. Is there anyone on this message board who has lost someome due to this? How the hell do I keep going. This disease has messed up our family. I need someome who understands to talk too.]]></description>
      <pubDate>Sun, 06 May 2012 05:23:15 GMT</pubDate>
      <dc:creator>Jerangi</dc:creator>
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      <title>Need Advice on Breaking the News to Family and Friends</title>
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      <description><![CDATA[My brother who is 35 yo was recently diagnosed with GBM IV.&nbsp; I&#39;m still in shock and can&#39;t believe this is happening.&nbsp; I&#39;ve read up on GBM as much as I can and although the statistics look grim and that we have a long road ahead of us, I know that my brother will fight through this.&nbsp; We would like to make sure that he stays positive and hopeful as much as possible so we are afraid to break the news to our friends and relatives, who will be devastated once they hear about the diagnosis.&nbsp; We don&#39;t want them breaking down in tears when they come see him but I know not everyone will be able to control themselves.&nbsp; We are planning to give them the news before they come visit my brother so they can deal with the devastating news.&nbsp; Does anyone have any advice on what to say to them?]]></description>
      <pubDate>Thu, 19 Apr 2012 13:53:15 GMT</pubDate>
      <dc:creator>Family0418</dc:creator>
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      <title>Four years</title>
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      <description><![CDATA[my son was diagnosed with gbm at age 12. He had radiation, surgery and chemo. He did very well on temidar and the tumor seemed to stay away. Then this past Dec. He had a seizure and we found it had returned. He had surgery again followed by radiation and avastin. He seems to be doing well with the avastin but is extremely tired. He has missed a lot of school but I figure we can make that up, right now it's his health. I only work two days a week to get out and be social and have a little money. I don't really do much else but stay and take care of him. I'm realizing this is getting me down and I need to do something to feel like I'm helping. Thinking of fundraising for brain tumor research and my son wants to help others financially that have a child that's battling cancer. I hope that I can help this way and give me something "helpful" to do. My heart goes out to everyone of you who are fighting this battle. Cancer Sucks! Thanks for listening.]]></description>
      <pubDate>Mon, 16 Apr 2012 15:20:55 GMT</pubDate>
      <dc:creator>Anonymous</dc:creator>
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      <title>How do you deal with the emotional and physical stress of being a caregiver</title>
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      <description><![CDATA[My wife currently34 was diagnosed in November 2010 with a grade II astrocytoma. It is on the left side of her brain and is inoperable. It is where speech and comprehension take place.She went through radiation therapy and timador and seemed to be doing ok after a few months, then a week before Christmas she had an MRI and it was back, within 2 weeks she was in the hospital and was not doing well. The dr got the swelling down and put her on avastin and cpt11 in January. Seemed to be doing ok but now she is struggling to remember things. Like today she can't remember when her birthday is and when she ask for things around the house she knows what she is asking for but can't get it out and struggles to describe to me what she is asking for. Has been a tough road, I fear the future is going to get tougher before all is said and done. My wife's dr was very honest and told me there was no cure for my wife...said she didn't know how long she would be here with my family. How the heck do you continue to deal with this day in and day out. I have been on an emotional roller coaster as of late, struggling to deal with all this. I have good friends and family but they have no idea what I really deal with. So I guess my question tied into this novel I have written is "what are something's I can do to help get through this" ? PS........BRAIN TUMORS SUCK!!!!!!! How do you keep it from consuming your life????]]></description>
      <pubDate>Mon, 16 Apr 2012 03:16:25 GMT</pubDate>
      <dc:creator>Jerangi</dc:creator>
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      <title>Bob more tired and cold</title>
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      <description><![CDATA[<b><span style="color: rgb(128, 0, 0);"><span style="font-size: 16px;">First, I still want to say that Bob is feeling pretty good and continues on his cabinetry project in our bedroom to finish the reno.&nbsp;<br />
But...he seems to be growing more tired than normal.&nbsp; His body always feels cold to the touch and he complains of being cold all the time.<br />
I can also see him becoming more and more forgetful.&nbsp; For instance, he will ask me a question and about an hour later, he will ask me same question.<br />
Anybody out there have had this happening to you</span>?</span></b>]]></description>
      <pubDate>Sat, 14 Apr 2012 19:47:21 GMT</pubDate>
      <dc:creator>Sus</dc:creator>
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      <title>Scared and Heartbroken</title>
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      <description><![CDATA[Hi everyone,<br />
I&#39;m feeling very scared and heartbroken for my sister and just wanted to vent to people who have been in similar situations and see if anyone has any thoughts or advice.&nbsp; My 34 year old&nbsp;sister was diagnosed with a mixed glioma in her frontal lobe about 10 years ago.&nbsp; She had surgery very soon after that at sloan kettering and they removed almost 75% of the tumor.&nbsp;&nbsp;About 3 years later it began to grow again so she had&nbsp;chemo and radiation.&nbsp; After that she began having a lot of focal&nbsp;seizures and had to stop driving, but the tumor wasn&#39;t growing which we were happy about.&nbsp;&nbsp;<br />
Then, last spring the tumor began growing again and so the doctors at smilow had her start Temodar.&nbsp; The Temodar worked great for about 5 months and was actually shrinking the tumor.&nbsp; But a MRI in January showed that the tumor was growing again and the Temodar was not working anymore.&nbsp;&nbsp;And to make matters worse, we found out the tumor was much more agressive, a higher grade and that it spread to her brain stem and basal ganglia.&nbsp; So, she is now doing Avastin treatments every two weeks.&nbsp; The doctors say theres not many options after the Avastin.&nbsp; &nbsp;&nbsp;<br />
Since the&nbsp;tumor spread, her symptoms have gotten a lot worse and&nbsp;my family has had to schedule people to be with her and her&nbsp;7 year old son at all times.&nbsp; She has lost use of her left arm, her left leg is weaker, the left side of her face is droopy, she&#39;s gained about 30 pounds in a few months, her breathing is a lot heavier at times, and she has had issues with wetting her bed and not being able to make it to the bathroom.&nbsp; Shes always had a positive attitude, but is starting to lose it and she alternates her moods between silly,&nbsp;grumpy and sad.&nbsp; She feels like she looks like a &quot;weirdo&quot; and is embarrased.&nbsp; I love her so much&nbsp;and it is so painful to watch.&nbsp;<br />
Most of the doctors havent given us a real prognosis because they want to see&nbsp;if the Avastin is working, but one doctor told my mom he&nbsp;wants to recommend hospice.&nbsp; I try and stay positive&nbsp;so I can stay strong but I&#39;m starting to really get scared because I honestly don&#39;t know how I&#39;ll deal if I lose her.&nbsp;&nbsp;<br />
We&#39;re going to an appointment next monday for an MRI and to see the doctor at Smilow to see how the avastin is working.&nbsp; I&nbsp;just hope there&#39;s some sort of&nbsp;miracle.&nbsp; &nbsp;&nbsp;<br />
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      <pubDate>Mon, 09 Apr 2012 11:06:45 GMT</pubDate>
      <dc:creator>hermione73</dc:creator>
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      <title>appointment to receive diagnosis</title>
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      <description><![CDATA[Hi. My mom had a seizure 2 weeks and 2 days ago today. She was in the hospital for 14 days, and a brain biopsy showed a glioma. We go to the surgeons office this week to get the full report. My sisters and my aunt and I will accompany her to the appointment. I am looking for suggestions as to how to be supportive when she receives the news. Thanks in advance. Seems obvious, but I am at a loss for how to help receive such news.]]></description>
      <pubDate>Mon, 26 Mar 2012 18:14:49 GMT</pubDate>
      <dc:creator>slpin</dc:creator>
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      <guid isPermaLink="true">http://my.braintumorcommunity.org/discussions/caregivers-family-and/2012/03/10/father-with-glioblastoma</guid>
      <title>Father with Glioblastoma</title>
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      <description><![CDATA[My father just had brain surgery and was diognosed with Glioblastoma on the left side of his brain. He was perfectly healthy before this and was barely ever sick then he had a stroke, because of the tumor, and that&#39;s how the doctors found the tumor. He is now very weak on the right side of his body and cannot talk to use or even feed himself. He is currently at our local hospital but we are soon going to transfer him to Cancer Treatment Center of America in Philadelphia PA. The doctor&#39;s he is seeing right now gave a life expectancy of about 18 months with treatment(chemo and radiation) or less than 6 months without. I&#39;m still in shock because my father is so young it seems(51) and I can&#39;t believe that I may lose him in less than 2 years. I don&#39;t know much about this type of brain tumor because I have never known anyone who had any brain tumor. All I know from the dr is that this type is really aggressive. My husband, two children, and I moved into&nbsp; my parents home to stay with my mother and also be able to help care for my father when he comes home. I am almost in shock of what I was told and haven&#39;t even been able to cry yet. I feel like this is just a bad dream and every morning I wake up thinking it will be over but then realize it is not over. I would love to hear from anyone else that has dealt with or is dealing with this type of brain tumor and I would love to hear your experience and know what lies ahead. ]]></description>
      <pubDate>Sat, 10 Mar 2012 12:23:16 GMT</pubDate>
      <dc:creator>caseymarie05</dc:creator>
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      <title>Emotionless</title>
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      <description><![CDATA[My oldest brother was diagnosed with glioblastoma a couple of weeks ago. I use to watch Grey&#39;s Anatomy a lot last year and would tell myself &#39;Jeez, its just a tv show but poor people. Can&#39;t imagine that happening to the family.&#39; It happened. It&#39;s here. It&#39;s real. . . I know it&#39;s real. I know the person who raised me is dying. . . So why haven&#39;t I cried? When I found out my mind stopped. I was sad. I am sad. But I just sit here with an emotionless face. Sometimes I tell myself I&#39;m being strong for my mother. That&#39;s why I won&#39;t cry. But I haven&#39;t even seen her since we found out. I think a part of me is waiting to just wake up from the nightmare. Just wake up and our lives are back to normal. But I know that&#39;s all crap. I&#39;m not in denial. I know whats going. I feel that sadness in my chest. I just avoid anything that deals with it. I avoid Grey&#39;s Anatomy. I avoid my mom. I avoid the &quot;hows your brother?&quot; question. Good. Is my answer. I don&#39;t talk about it. I don&#39;t talk about him. I drunkenly talked to my girlfriend about it. She practicly forced me. I think I need to talk. I need to know I&#39;m not really emotionless. I need to stop pretending that its not there. I need someone to reach out to. I need someone who knows what it is to feel this. I didn&#39;t know where else to turn....]]></description>
      <pubDate>Sun, 26 Feb 2012 03:54:20 GMT</pubDate>
      <dc:creator>Gabrielle</dc:creator>
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      <title>Tumour has moved the position of my mums brain ... ?</title>
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      <description><![CDATA[My mum (age 52) was diagnosed with a brain tumour last Tuesday after being admitted into hospital with sever head / neck pains and seizures causing her to fall to floor and black out.&nbsp; She has been moved to a specialist neurologist&rsquo;s hospital now and they are currently doing the remainder of MRI scans and dye scans to find out more.&nbsp; She is currently very confused, her balance is unsteady and can hardly walk. Its quite distressing to see her in that way.<br />
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We are currently waiting for the results of the tests but one thing the nurse did mention was that the tumour has moved the position of&nbsp;her brain.&nbsp; She has asked for us to talk to the consultant but as of yet we haven&rsquo;t not been able to.&nbsp; Can anyone explain anything about this? It sounds terrible, can the brain move back, is this very damaging?<br />
<br />
Thank you for your help!<br />
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      <pubDate>Tue, 21 Feb 2012 15:21:53 GMT</pubDate>
      <dc:creator>NicoleBouzon</dc:creator>
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      <title>Brain Tumor Survey</title>
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      <description><![CDATA[Hello everyone! I need your help! Please!!!<br />
<br />
My name is Debra Gotch, I am a brain tumor survivor and life coachi. I am writing a book to help thousands of&nbsp;people to overcome the emotional difficulties of having a brain tumor. I can draw on my own experience however I would really value hearing about your own challenges&nbsp;and how you have dealt with them. Please take this 10 minute survey below and forward it to anyone else you know affected with a tumor. Thank you so much! <a href="https://www.surveymonkey.com/s/K833LPY"><br />
<br />
https://www.surveymonkey.com/s/K833LPY</a>]]></description>
      <pubDate>Tue, 14 Feb 2012 13:08:27 GMT</pubDate>
      <dc:creator>debragotch</dc:creator>
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      <title>Brain Tumor Survey</title>
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      <description><![CDATA[Hello everyone! I need your help! Please!!!<br />
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<br />
My name is Debra Gotch, brain tumor survivor and life coach. I was diagnosed with a brain tumor just 4 days after having my beautiful little girl. I&nbsp;am currently writing a book to help thousands of people overcome the emotional difficulties of having a tumor and would ask if you could spare 10 minutes to complete the survey below.&nbsp; This is very valuable information as it&nbsp;will help&nbsp;me to consider other peoples challenges outside of my own for the book.&nbsp;Thank you so much for your time and if possilbe would you&nbsp;please pass this link to anyone else you know affected by tumors.&nbsp;<br />
<a href="https://www.surveymonkey.com/s/K833LPY">https://www.surveymonkey.com/s/K833LPY</a>]]></description>
      <pubDate>Tue, 14 Feb 2012 12:44:43 GMT</pubDate>
      <dc:creator>debragotch</dc:creator>
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      <title>malignant astrocytoma - help</title>
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      <description><![CDATA[My best friend found out she had a tumor on her brain stem on Jan 19 2012 from an MRI and the only reason she had to get an MRI was because she was having vision problems out of her right eye, breathing heavily, and migraine headaches.&nbsp; So her doctor told her to go to go and get the MRI to rule out the worst, but low and behold it turns out to be the worst.&nbsp; So 4 days later she is admitted and having brain surgery to get a biopsy &amp; finds out its stage 3 astrocytoma.&nbsp; She will be undergoing radiation and chemotherapy to help shrink the tumor.&nbsp; But they were unable to give her a prognosis because of the rarity of the tumor because it is mostly seen in young children.&nbsp; She is in fact only 1 out of 150 in the United States with this exact problem.&nbsp; She was put in a clinical trial so they can find better ways to treat this.&nbsp; I was wondering if there is anyone who has or knows of anyone with this problem also.&nbsp; I am so scared I am going to loss my 21 year old best friend.&nbsp; Can any one give me advice on how to cope with this information and situation? &nbsp;And it is hard because she says shes fine and acts completely normal. &nbsp;I do not know if she is in denial or still shocked. &nbsp;I worry that one day it will all hit her and she wont know what to do with the whole situation she is in. &nbsp;Any feedback would be great. &nbsp;Thank you :)]]></description>
      <pubDate>Wed, 08 Feb 2012 19:54:24 GMT</pubDate>
      <dc:creator>mathewvc</dc:creator>
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      <title>Your oncologist</title>
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      <description><![CDATA[<b><span style="color: rgb(0, 128, 128);">Just thinking about what oncologists give patients as their prognosis for GBM4.&nbsp; Would like to know what others say to you.</span></b>]]></description>
      <pubDate>Mon, 30 Jan 2012 17:36:05 GMT</pubDate>
      <dc:creator>Sus</dc:creator>
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      <title>Peace</title>
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      <description><![CDATA[My husband went to be with his Lord and Savior Jan. 21.&nbsp; Thank you for your prayers and shoulders to lean on.]]></description>
      <pubDate>Tue, 24 Jan 2012 21:30:06 GMT</pubDate>
      <dc:creator>8ntfair</dc:creator>
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